4 women, 4 generations, 4 perceptions… of porn! – II

4 women, 4 generations, 4 perceptions… of porn!

2. Does Adult Entertainment have the potential to affect the lives of teens and their perception of ‘real sex’?

 

Ms Boomer: Youngsters are extremely clever and when they are ready, they will find what they are looking for on the net or on their phones, no matter how hard you try and ‘protect’ them.  Claims are made about young boys becoming addicted to porn on line.  Yeah…  No more than they do to drugs, alcohol and tobacco, they manage to get their hands on those too.  You can’t differentiate between any of them, but I firmly believe that tobacco, alcohol etc. are what we should concern ourselves with.  The Dutch’ openness about the facts of life has resulted in a dramatic drop in teen pregnancies.

Having been born and raised in Amsterdam I was subjected at a young age to porn coming out of the closet,, the red light district and the birth of sex shops.  I have never been affected nor threatened by any of it and have always realized that porn is what it is supposed to be –  a fantasy.  Like Tom and Jerry.  That kind of violence is no more real than porn. Now we can all tell the difference between fantasy and fact, can’t we?

Red Light District Amsterdam

Ms Liberation: I’ve been following the recent UK debate with close interest and can obviously see the argument on both sides. The issue that is increasingly blurred in all the media hype is actually who should be ultimately responsibility for protecting our kids. It seems to me the government is forced to step in to plug the gap of more and more parents who are unable or just don’t want to take responsibility for their children’s actions. In reality, is this really the most effective route for actually getting a successful result?

Like all young teens, my group of friends occasionally got hold of an adult magazine. Did that skew my view on sex? No! Why? – Because I was lucky enough to have realistic references at home as my main influences. Therefore, seeing this kind of material was immediately filed away in the ‘unreal’ or ‘fantasy’ box of my brain.

Is the current day situation actually a social consequence? In most cases, both parents have to work now and in many cases parents divorce when kids are still young. This has caused a decline in ‘real’ reference and guidance being readily available at home.

So in reality, is it adult entertainment that is the issue here or the changes in our society leaving our youngsters without the guidance and reference points my generation had?

Ms Digital: Of course it does! But only in the same way that ‘Some Like It Hot’ could affect them. For sure, too many Marilyn Monroe films could damage a teen’s image of male/female roles just as likely as too much porn could damage their idea of what sex is like in ‘real’, grownup, mediocre life. The solution therefore, is not to ban all ‘dumb blonde’ films but to educate our youth properly, making them understand the differences between life and fiction. It seems to me, we often forget we are talking about fiction at the end of the day!

Marilyn Monroe

Miss Teen Queen: Yes it does have the potential to affect perceptions of ‘real sex’ amongst my generation. I know my friends, who are boys, have watched adult videos and have done so for many years already. In my opinion, this could lead them to have certain expectations of sex that we girls probably can’t live up to.

As girls my age don’t really watch it, our expectations are in a totally different place to the boys, especially as OUR perceptions are based more on what our friends talk about or on Hollywood movies. This makes the difference between both gender’s expectations (or aspirations) enormous.

I guess girls’ expectations aren’t anymore realistic when you think about it. We think it’s will be like the movies – boy meets girl, boy has great body, boy pisses girl off, grovels his way back and they fall into each others arms, snog and all live happily ever after. Is that any more realistic than boys thinking that girls want to have sex like porn stars? At the end of the day, deep down, both genders KNOW that neither scenario is really true in real life.

That said, from my experience, I would say girls base their perception of sex and relationships more on experience, whereas boys base it more on expectation.

4 women 4 generations 4 perceptions of porn

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